Monday, August 30, 2010

What is done is done

I believe most of the time people are angry is because we are unable to accept the fact that, what is done is done.

I believe that this is the cause of me getting angry all the time.

Accepting the fact that, what has been done or what has happen in the past is a difficult thing to do.

That is why we see people committing suicide, getting mad, doing all sorts of unthinkable things.

My theory is, stress can be handle. But the thing that drives a person off the edge is, not being able to accept that what is done is done.

We are not able to tell our mind that we have to accept the fact that we cannot change the past.

We read about husband splashshing acid to daughther, artist commiting suicide, throwing of babies, murders, and the list goes on.

All this has somehow got to do with not being able to accept reality.

When a person is told by a doctor that he/she has cancer. The first reaction is of course you are surprise, then you feel sad, after that you get angry, you are angry and you question why God put you through this test. You are angry with everyone. You stop do things, and you eventually end up doing nothing at all. You feel self pity all the time. All you want is for that cancer to go away. You question everything that has happen to you.

But what you fail to realise is that, what has been done is done. You fail to accept the reality that you got cancer. The longer you take to realise that you have cancer, the longer you will indulge in self pity and the longer you do that, the longer it takes for you to heal.  You will eventually lose it.You will lose what ever control you still have on youself, you will be angry all the time, and you will eventually end up driving away everybody that is close to you. 

The solution is to learn to accept reality, that what has happen, has already happen. Its now time for you to fight off cancer with what ever treatment there is out there. To have the determination to live. To have the perseverance to try and fight off cancer. The faster you accept reality the faster you will heal emotionally. Cuz the road towards healing is a very tough one. You will need all the support you can get.

This entry is dedicated to me and all of the people that keep on feeling self pity and angry with what life has brought them.

Learn to accept the fact that, what is done, is done. Live a better life then then yesterday. Indulge in activities, Socialize, talk to people and you will start to realize that life does not just revolve around us, and there are many interesting things to do, to explore, people to meet.

Cuz when life gives you lemon, you make lemonade. As life is like a box of chocolate, you will never know what you get.

Peace out.

ps: cancer is just a represention of what is done is done.


  1. yeahhh go go go!! gambatte ne koko!! >____<
    p/s: luv the 2nd last paragraph..totally agree wif that

  2. glad you think that way :)